Emotions are a big part of what makes us humans and it is completely normal to experience the bad ones too, such as anger, depression, sadness, disappointment and resentment. The emotions we experience on a daily basis are responsible for many of our actions and behavior, as they have the ability to hijack our thinking. We cannot prevent ourselves from experiencing certain emotions, but we can certainly put them under control and don’t let them impact our relationships, work progress, friendships and other aspects in life. Those bad emotions can be triggered from all sorts of factors and circumstances, so you must be very careful before you respond to each. Luckily, you can handle each and every emotion before an unwanted situation even happens. Here are 4 great ways to increase your emotional intelligence and help you keep your emotions in check.
As a wise man once said, “Awareness is the greatest agent for change”. Before you respond to an upcoming emotion, try to become aware of what triggers the negative emotions you usually experience. If you know the emotions (anger, fear, etc.) you struggle most with, you must find out what causes you to feel that way. Is it a person? A specific situation? Or a specific behavior of any person? Only when you know your emotional triggers, you will be to avert them.
Before you respond to an emotion that you’re about to experience, take a moment to pause and think about what just happened. It is a mistake to react immediately to any kind of emotional trigger or new information you receive, because it is very likely to say something you don’t even mean and end up regretting it. Whenever you feel an urge to scream or punch something, take a deep breath and stabilize your impulse. Once you become calmer, it’s time to choose the most appropriate respond.
If you know what triggers your negative emotions and you learned how to avoid responding to them right away, then it’s time for the hardest part – choosing how to respond on them. Sometimes we freak out over literally nothing and that happens because we give in to the urge to respond right away, which is wrong. Responding is nothing but just another habit, so yes, you can choose how to respond to any negative emotion you experience. To build this essential ability and put your emotions under control, you only need to continuously work on it.
After you manage your emotion, you will need to find a way to let it go in a healthy way. Negative emotions should not be suppressed for too long, because they can leave your emotional self with a permanent damage. Call your friend and tell them what happened to you and how you felt. Pour your soul onto paper in a journal and try to be as wordy as possible. Engage yourself in a physical activity, which is known as the best way to get rid of negative emotions. Meditation may also help you calm your mind and improve your focus to help you see the things clearer.